The "Dear Sis" poems published over the past few days were written in the early 1980s in response to the extremism in feminism at the time. Initially I was prompted by our regular poetry meetings in Cornwall. Dennis Robinson (aka Audi Maserati, whom you will hear more of later) and I used to travel across the Cornish country side to meetings in Falmouth in very scary car rides with his then SO Gloria - who was the inspiration of a number of poems, for different reasons, by both of us.
Sylvia Kantaris held court at these meetings and her attitude to Dennis and I prompted the first of these poems "Dear Sis, Tar Can." I became very good friends with - and a business partner of - of Sylvia's husband Noel, who is someone I greatly admire. Noel wrote to me recently objecting to the poem - calling it an "attack" - but since it has been on the Web for over a decade now, it would be dishonest in my opinion to delete it.
I wrote in response to his objection:
I wrote this poem in the very early 1980s, and it has been on the web for many years. It is a criticism, a comment, but I would not characterize it as strongly as an "attack." I remember very well the poetry meetings in Cornwall that inspired the poem. And this poem was the first in a "Dear Sis" series that addressed feminism. I recall that Bob [Devereux] also thought it a little harsh. But, it is a poem, it is what it is, it is a free and honest expression of mine, and of the time, by an uneducated working-class poet.
Noel, you are one of the people in my past for whom I have the highest regard and respect. I would not wish to do anything to dishonor you or our time together. I do not believe that this poem does that. I harbor no negative feelings toward Sylvia. Please accept the poem for what it is, naive.
Perhaps I would not have written the poem as I am today, but I think it right that I stand by the sentiment of the time, no matter how naive.
My favorite of these, and the poem that was always a crowd pleaser when performed, is "Dear Sis, I Can't Sleep For The Sound Of Your Head Banging." I feel this poem most captures my feelings of the extremism at the time. And let's face it, it's funny.
It was not until some years later that I realized that feminism was mostly a middle-class phenomenon and had left working-class women untouched. I felt guilty, as did most young men of the time under the onslaught. I then discovered that in fact the working-class man had also been denied the right to vote and had not widely achieved that right in the UK - along with working-class women - until a year after the landed women of the suffrage - in 1921!
One oppression does not justify or diminish another, of course, but the cause of the working-class, male and female alike, is surely as great an injustice - and all the oppressed have equal and common cause in my view, regardless of gender.
This is not to condone the social treatment by many working-class men of their women, but that really is a different issue and remains to be addressed - there has been some trickle down effect but the truth is that the working-class models its own attitudes upon those images it holds in regard. Especially in England, there is little innovative thinking coming from the initiative of the working-class itself. That said, the assholes aside, social collaboration between many working-class men and women, despite the stereotypes, is of necessity more equitable.
Today, I am the father of two daughters. They are individuals in their own right, equal in all respects to my sons. Clearly, the cause of feminism is just. It is simply not the only cause, and single-minded middle-class feminists in the early 1980s were insensitive to other causes, especially the cause of the working-class in general, and in particular, to the cause of the working-class woman whose rights were equally denied and whose predicament was and remains dire. Education was and still is needed on all sides.
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